YOUR IDENTITY ISN’T DEFINE BY WHAT YOU FEEL
The great writer George Bernard Shaw, winner of a Nobel and an Oscar once said: << People always blame circumstances to justify who they are but I don’t believe in the circumstances. The people who manage to emerge in this world are those who search the circumstances they want >>. The processes of our brain is what give value and meaning to circumstances and allow us to live our life according to certain parameters, cause our emotions are identified by the experiences that we live; for example: if you have been cheated by a friend or a partner, subconsciously, the feeling of insecurity or jealousy could reappear in your future relationships and you might not even be aware of it. but the good news is that all our emotions, exactly like muscles can be modeled permanently through ANALYSIS AND INTERPRETATION.
The period of childhood is a crucial moment because we absorb things and attitudes already existed and so everything that an individual considers real and possible is often instilled by the outside world and not by ourselves). HAVE YOU EVER FELT SAD BECAUSE YOU STAYED HOME ON A SATURDAY NIGHT WHEN EVERYBODY ELSE IS OUT ? BUT WHO SAID THAT ON SATURDAY EVENING YOU MUST GO OUT?
To understand how beliefs relate to our emotions and consequently influence our life experience we must be aware of the fact that their are the basis of our life experiences :
TRAIN THESE MUSCLES CALLED ” THE RULES OF LIFE ” IT’S GONNA HELP YOU TO STAY MORE PRESENT TO EXTERNAL CIRCUMSTANCES, RECOGNIZING THE ENVIRONMENT AND THE EFFECTS OF YOUR ACTIONS WITH YOUR OWN EXPLANATIONS OF WHAT EXISTS AND HAPPENS.
Have you ever wondered why we react so badly when our deepest beliefs are challenged? THEY SAY THAT THE MORE INTENSE OUR NEED FOR SECURITY WILL BE, THE DEEPLY OUR BELIEFS WILL BE ROOTED. The purpose of beliefs is to find a meaning of the world and if they destroy our model of reality we lose that inner security that we have created for ourselves over time. But what we still don’t know is that SOMETIMES IT IS EXACTLY THE ‘’UNKNOWN’’ THAT GIVES US THE INPUT THAT MAKE YOU FEEL MORE POWERFUL BECAUSE YOU ACTIVATE YOUR MIND AND USE YOUR RESOURCES TO FIND CERTAINTIES IN THE NEW … This process creates self-confidence in an unknown future.
🎞 LIFE EPISODE :
It’s November and during the autumn Milan is beautiful, summer is gone and there is a metamorphosis of colors around me and I feel a magical energy deep in my heart.
Today t’s an important day because one of the most important people in my life was born in this day, she is my cousin Giulia. Today I wouldn’t be with her physically because I am leaving for an INFINITE journey .. I’m gonna explain you very soon why I call it ‘’the journey of life’’ but in the mean time I wish all the best to you Giuli, always surround yourself with people who love you for the wonderful person you are, so natural in an increasingly superficial world, never change.
… I’m at the station ready to leave, and like Me, many of the sign of the Virgo are very punctual, so I decide to go and get an American coffe from Starbucks while I‘m waiting for my train to arrive. I‘m very exited cause I’m leaving for an important job and for the first time I will go on a cruise where I will be shooting a new TV series …
While I’m overthinking about this amazing opportunity guess what happened? I ended up on the wrong train and realized it halfway through the journey, while I was reviewing the lines of my script the conductor arrives and gave me this information . I can’t tell you at that moment what I was feeling, I saw my life pass me by and all my dreams flying away…. I was in shock and my mind wasn’t lucid and i was very nervous but I couldn’t let this happened I said to my self I had to arrive that day no matter what . I remember I went to the bathroom and I couldn’t stop crying but the more I watched my tears flowing down my face, the more I began to realize the fact that I was not looking for any solution to solve that problem but I was enlarging it. I immediately washed my face and picked up the phone, looked for the first train available to Naples and bought it. I spent 100 euros for the ticket and when I finally got on the train I put down my suitcases, took a deep breath and started crying again . I let everything coming out, all my emotions, all my fears and tensions went out and that was exactly when I started writing this article… I couldn’t stop writing and when I arrived at my destination in time to catch the ship, I looked at what I wrote for the first time and I suddenly realized an important lesson: THE IMPORTANCE OF MANAGING OUR EMOTIONS: I had so much energy available in that moment that if I kept crying instead of organizing a plan and pushing against the barriers of my mind that were stopping me from taking action I would not have been here today ..
You’re being given the chance to work through any darker emotions that may come up, such as a fear of failure or rejection. Hopefully I could see how these issues were influencing my decisions and behavior and I immediately made the necessary adjustments.
So the question that we may ask ourselves during this times is: << WHAT ARE MY EMOTIONS TRYING TO TEACH ME ABOUT MY SELF? AND HOW CAN I MANAGE MY EMOTIONS IN DIFFICULT SITUATIONS ? >>.
✅ LESSONS FROM LIFE :
- CREATE A HEALTHY SPACE BETWEEN WHO YOU ARE AND THE ACTIONS YOU TAKE
- YOUR IDENTITY ISN’T DEFINE BY WHAT YOU FEEL
- TAKE ACTIONS & FOCUS ON WHAT YOU CAN CONTROL
- TRY TO EMBRACE YOUR INSECURITIES
Remember that you are an incredible force. You are able to choose how your life will evolve.
it is amazing how sometimes it is enough to change the way of reacting to problems, when you become paralyzed in front of something and you end up not choosing, you stay still and you end up doing worse.
becoming aware of our emotions and being able to manage in the best way is not always easy, and it’s something that I first of all have to train too
surely then, we will marvel at how much strength we can bring out in certain circumstances.
You’re an inspiration Sabri and you’re doing a great job♥️ Keep going, love u
Thank you for your beautiful words Laura!! It’s a process that requires a lot of energy EVERY DAY, cause we live in a society where it’s very easy to get distracted, it’s a constant challenge . Never stop 🙏
For all their magic and wonder, sometimes our original fairytales can fall short.
Most of the time , always, or never ! It’s depends on how you choose to look at the world
“ A VOLTE È ESATTAMENTE LO “SCONOSCIUTO” CHE TI FA SENTIRE PIÙ POTENTE PERCHÉ ATTIVI LA TUA MENTE E UTILIZZI LE TUE RISORSE PER TROVARE CERTEZZE NEL NUOVO… Questo processo crea fiducia in se stessi e in un futuro sconosciuto “.
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Belle parole!
Condivido pienamente!
Aggiungerei che è proprio quell’attivazione mentale conseguente ad un qualcosa di insolito, di nuovo, allo “sconosciuto” la vera linfa vitale, l’essenza del tutto.
È quella voglia inconscia di trovare certezza nel nuovo che ti fa sentire vivo/a. È quella sana incoscienza che direziona il nostro percorso di vita.
È, come dici te, “un processo che crea fiducia in se stessi”, nel prossimo e nella vita in generale.
“Puoi scegliere come evolverà la tua vita”. Esatto.
Alla fine siamo noi a spiegare le vele della nostra barca, orientarle assecondando o meno il vento.
Come dice Seneca “Non possiamo dirigere il vento, ma possiamo orientare le vele”.
Siamo noi i navigatori della nostra vita.
Tutte le risposte sono dentro di noi, quando iniziamo a navigare questo mondo con più consapevolezza impareremo a orientare le vele verso la direzione giusta. Noi non siamo la nostra mente, non siamo neanche il nostro corpo.
Grazie per aver condiviso questo pensiero così ispirazionale .
Namaskar Daniel 🙏🏻